I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months now and I really like him.The thing is, he has some major relationship issues.If you are having trust issues in relationships, you may need to take a step back to examine why you have them and what you are going to do about it. If you don't have it, you won't feel satisfied with anyone you date.People have issues with trust in their relationships for many different reasons. Others experienced rejection after falling in love. No matter what your reasons are for not being able to trust someone, it is important to discover how it affects your relationships. Unfortunately, his ex-wife cheated on him, and married her lover the day after their divorce was final.I just wanted to know, in a general way, what does it take for a man to get over being cheated on by an ex-wife, particularly if it has been many years now, and he still seems to be putting up walls?
My short answer would be: Don’t try to help him get over his relationship issues. If he’s going to be receptive to it, he’ll come around and get over his baggage.
Also think about whether he gives any signs he would do it again, like goes out and doesn't reply in his texts, goes on suspicious trips, flirts with other girls etc.
If yes confront him about specific behaviors you don't like.
It doesn't mean that once a cheater, always a cheater, but I think it's good to have a conversation with him and let him know that cheating on you would be unacceptable. You are now ready to move on, and then your partner tells you he sees real loyalty in you and he likes how much you make him feel special. It's important to understand that your relationship is different than the one the person had before. In the past I've continued to date someone who had cheated **on me**; we continued to date for two years after that, and it was wonderful.
You might try to make expectations clear, what's ok for you and what's not. The infidelity was a small indiscretion; it had nothing to do with why we eventually parted, and, to the best of my knowledge, it never happened again.